Let’s face it. We attend medical conferences to learn about advancements in our fields and to continue learning. However, many of us go predominantly to connect with former co-residents, hang out with colleagues, and (dare I say) network. As an introvert myself, that all sounded like fun until it came to the dreaded word: “network.” Just typing the word reminds me of the social discomfort associated with the act. Many begin to feel overwhelmed, underprepared, overcome with impostor syndrome, or some combination of all the above. I remember my first conference networking event solo — I felt like I was crawling out of my skin. It wasn’t until I saw a former residency colleague and had a drink to hold with my sweating palms that I felt a small sense of relief.
Years have passed since that first event, but I still need to remind myself why I put myself through such suffering. Yet, I’ve come to realize that networking is crucial for advancing your career or exploring new opportunities. Connecting with physicians outside your usual circle can broaden your perspective, open doors, and lead to invaluable insights. But to make networking less daunting, I developed a set of strategies that have become my nonnegotiables.
1) Plan Ahead: Conferences provide detailed agendas in advance. Review the schedule, highlight sessions that interest you, and identify networking events you might want to attend. Research key speakers or attendees you hope to connect with. Even planning a few conversation starters can make you feel more confident.
2) Set Clear Goals: Know why you want to network. Are you exploring career opportunities? Seeking a mentor? Looking for peers who share your interests? Set specific, achievable goals: “Connect with two physicians in my specialty,” or “Seek advice from a senior physician about research opportunities.”
3) Prioritize Quality Connections: Deep connections matter more than a stack of business cards. Focus on meaningful conversations rather than trying to meet everyone. Listen actively, ask insightful questions, and follow up with those who truly resonate with you.
4) Leverage Social Media: This may feel unnatural to some, but social media can be a powerful tool for maintaining connections. Have a polished LinkedIn profile ready, follow event hashtags on Instagram or X (formerly Twitter), and don’t be afraid to send a follow-up message to those you meet.
5) Manage Overwhelm With Breaks: Networking can be draining. Give yourself permission to take breaks when needed. Step outside, grab a coffee, or simply find a quiet corner. Recharging can help you stay authentic and engaged.
Even now, I sometimes still get the familiar tightness in my chest before approaching someone new, especially someone I perceive as more successful. Sometimes I even check my watch, curious if my heart rate has spiked. But I’ve learned that most people are happy to share their experiences — they’ve been where I am, too.
So this may seem like a lot, but it doesn’t require months of preparation. Focus on the event you’re attending — it’s likely only a few hours. Remember, as an introvert, you bring a unique strength to networking — the ability to listen deeply and connect meaningfully. Approach each conversation with curiosity, focus on genuine connections, and give yourself permission to take breaks as needed. Networking isn’t about becoming someone else; it’s about being authentically you — and that’s more than enough.
What strategies have helped you make networking feel more authentic? Share in the comments.
Christine DeSanno, DO, FACEP, is chief of service, Department of Emergency Medicine at NYU Langone Hospital – Suffolk and
clinical associate professor of emergency medicine at NYU Grossman Long Island School of Medicine.
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